One of the Christmas traditions on my list is a handmade tree ornament for each of the children in my clan who are under eighteen. I started the practice when I moved far away from my birth family. Although I kept tabs on everyone, I was not up-to-date on the interests, needs and desires of the youngest generation. Some said I should just forget about presents, but I like Christmas. I like the excitement of wrapping a gift, of hiding it under the tree, of watching the smiles on Christmas morning when someone receives exactly what he wanted. Besides, I worried I’d become nothing but a name in my extended family if I didn’t do something to maintain a presence with young relatives I rarely saw face-to-face. So, as a compromise, I agreed not to spend much money and my siblings agreed I could send little remembrances.
All went well for the first generation. There were eight of them. A manageable number. When each of them reached the age of eighteen, they had a collection of eighteen ornaments for their own tree. (I assumed the kids would move out of the family home and set up on their own.) At first, I didn’t know whether my idea was well received or not, but in later years I’ve heard from nieces and nephews that my gift to them had a special ceremony all of its own. In one family, it was the only gift to be opened on Christmas Eve and then hung on the tree. Another wrote to me years later, when she was a mother herself, about unpacking her collection of hand-made ornaments and explaining them to her children, and feeling loved.
So, now I’m full of warm fuzzies, and could have said “my work is done,” but instead, I started in on the children of the children. Now there are thirteen ornaments to be made every year, often in a mad, last-minute scramble.
This year, I tried to get ahead of the game by completing the ornaments in October. I set them aside, feeling smug, with a note that they needed a few finishing touches, but I had lots of time. NOT!
When I went to package up the gifts, I realized there were many finishing touches still needed. Names to add, loops to attach, ribbons to affix. I was, once again, behind the eight ball.
As a writer, there is a lesson for me here. That first draft, or even second draft, that I confidently put away saying it only needs a tweak here and there, is not ready for other eyes. In this age of instant communication, it is wise to pause before hitting the publish button. Novels, short stories, social media posts, even e-mails, can all benefit from fine tuning. Where my ornaments needed ribbons and tags, my prose might need tightening, the plot might need clarification, the characters could do with some polish.
I’m happy to report, that my Christmas gifts, with loops and ribbons attached, are all in the mail, carrying love from me to little folk I may not have met but who hold a place in my heart.
What about you? Any Christmas traditions in your family you’d like to share? A favourite book? Movie you have to watch?